Perfectionism

You can never quite get there…

It has to be just right. You’ve just got to impress your boss or coworkers, so you go all out. But it isn’t long before those unrealistic expectations have you stressed, tense, and disappointed.

What started great is dwindling to nothing because making mistakes = failure. The decision-making overwhelms you, and you begin to feel worthless as you realize it’s not going to meet your exact vision. That it could have been better.

So you never finish.

If you find yourself getting stuck on project after project – at work or home – bothered when things aren’t aligned “just so,”…

You might be a perfectionist.

Analysis paralysis

Analysis paralysis is the act of being fixed in a decision-making state – when overthinking and analyzing each choice to death makes it difficult to choose anything at all!

When analysis paralysis is at its peak, you find yourself stuck in procrastination.

You start thinking, “What’s the point of doing anything at all?” As a result, you don’t accomplish much.

Black and white thinking

Does it feel like there are only two options for every problem in life? Does it have to be either this thing OR that thing?

There are almost always more than two – and often many – options to choose from for each issue that arises.

Black and white thinking is very limiting and can make you quite critical – of yourself and others, too. All-or-nothing thinking makes you feel like the only options are to achieve or fail, with nothing in-between.

Become a recovering perfectionist

Looking deeper into what gives perfectionism such a stronghold on you is key to a better understanding of how to move to a more flexible place.

Did you learn to be “perfect” from seeing it modeled by someone else, or has it always been this way for as long as you can remember?

We’ll look at all of the many options you have and “what is good enough” for you. Perfectionism is a farce, not a reality.

We are all imperfect beings. To become flexible, we’ll find ways that work for you to practice a more pliable way of thinking.

By way of neuroplasticity, you can make new neural pathways that assist with creating different and more flexible responses. You’ll learn how to have deeper compassion and love for Self, which will allow mistakes to become your teacher instead of your criticizer.

You’ll learn to find more value in failure than in achievement; failure not only teaches us what doesn’t work, but it also gives way to new opportunities to explore what could work.

Are you ready to break the chains of perfectionism?

Call today (720) 235-8582 for your free 20-minute consultation to learn how I can help!